These are notes from Life, the Universe, and Everything writers conference. Any misinformation is the fault of the note taker. CIA Street Smarts for Women: Helping Women Avoid Abuse Using CIA Skills and Techniques
– The presenter asks: why am I qualified on this topic? I’m a previous CIA officer.
– Predators look for people who are lonely, or emotionally.
– Predators look for people who have vanity.
– They look for people who are angry. One person married her husband because she was angry with her parents.
– Curiosity makes people pliable and they take risks. One person was curious about porn; it motivated him to betray his country.
– The vulnerability can be abused by someone having compassion. Elizabeth Smart’s family was kidnapped because the family showed compassion.
– Some predators see a woman who is vulnerable they have poise they use. The six policies for compliance by professor Shelby. has these observations:
– A. reciprocity is when your date says, I paid a lot for those concert tickets. A date feels entitled. He expects the woman to reciprocate.
– B. Commitment: salespeople try to get people to sign up for long-term contracts/relationships. You can’t give up now, we’ve been together too long.
– C. social pressure/ proof: people feel left out when everyone else is doing something. Be careful of the line ‘everyone is doing it’.
– D. likeability: salesmen use it because it works. Predators do their very best to be kind and considerate. Smile. Need to see past the smile to see their true intention.
– E. scarcity: while supplies last. Predators use it as the captain of the team. Let the girl know I am once in a lifetime opportunity.
– F. Authority: We are taught to respect those who are in authority. The presenter’s wife had three uncles, all three tried to rape her. A schoolteacher made inappropriate comments. Two potential interviewers tried to abuse her. Authority ends when inappropriate behavior begins. Tell children that.
– Look out of each other; teach others the signs of abuse. They’re trying to manipulate you. Warn your friends.
– Be aware of where your friends are going and whom they are going with. Warn of abusive coaches etc.
– You can’t let others suffer in silence.
– Even when you are aware of these ploys, you can still fall for them. Resist the coach that invites a student to come to his hotel room to discuss team tactics.
